Wednesday, March 20, 2024

YOU ARE INDISPENSABLE - PART 2

 Thank all of you who responded to my last missive suggesting that we might change the word WIN to SUCCEED. All were really thoughtful responses, including one person who shared that the word “lose” the opposite of “win,” didn’t feel as bad to them as the word “failure,” the opposite of “succeed or success.” And I spent some time really feeling into this. Because, if you remember, in my last email, I talked about when we say the word “Win” there is always the word “lose” lurking right next to it in our consciousness. And that when I was thinking of the word “succeed,” the word “failure” didn’t seem to be lurking there. What I felt instead was the phrase, “If at once you don’t succeed, try and try again.”


       Now, of course, we often think of failing or failure as the opposite of succeeding, and to fail is tough. No doubt about that. But that little phrase, “If at first you don’t succeed, try and try again,” just clings onto my heart when I continue to think of failing. And then, of course, I think of the story of how Thomas Edison tried and failed 1000 times before he succeeded in inventing the light bulb.


       And I read somewhere recently that it takes courage to fail. And that is true. But I feel it’s more than just raw courage. I feel it is the knowledge that we must know even before we start that there is a possibility of failing more than once. And also knowing that the key to succeeding eventually is taking stock in the failure to see what you have learned from this attempt, and then incorporating that knowledge in your next attempt. This way with next attempt, you are using what you’ve learned from the previous "failure." Thus, it becomes a peeling away of the layers that are shrouding the gem of success that already exists in some part of your innate knowingness. 


It is like Michelangelo saying that he just chipped away at the marble until he revealed the statue or the angel already existing inside.


Mentioning Michelangelo and Edison is intentional. They were both working at succeeding at what their unique path in this life set out for them. Too often we find ourselves attempting to succeed at what others want for us to succeed at, or what we think will make us a lot of money, or wanting to be as good or better than someone else. If this is our motivation then we can try and try and try again, and we might get some level of success, but usually not that much. Not as much as our hearts are truly asking for us. 


Like Matt Damon’s story that I related last time in which he realized how empty it was to receive the Oscar, and how happy he was that he learned this at a young age. He thought how sad it would be to get it in old age and realize then that what he had chased after for his whole life had such little meaning. 

      

 Matt Damon has succeeded brilliantly as an actor. And that has been what fulfills him, not the prize. He actually got the Oscar for writing, not acting. 


Each one of us has some extremely important gift that is needed now in this transformational moment in history. And it is that gift that your Higher Self wants you to succeed at. And this is what makes you indispensable. And when you find your way to accepting and embracing your path and realize that everything you do toward it is on your journey to success, then you are able to let go of ego driven ideas about success and feel the powerful support of your own Higher Self and the universe.

 

       Now, I am not talking about having big dreams. This is what most of us get caught up in thinking about what success is. Achieving stuff and accolades is not the “Bliss” that Joseph Campbell was talking about. Bliss is not becoming famous or making seven figure sales. Bliss is what your divine purpose is in this lifetime. And you will find it hiding in plain sight. It is exactly the challenges you consistently battle with. And what your Higher Self wants you to do is to become with each new challenge a little more aware of your path, to become the most elegant expression of your Soul for yourself. 


This, of course, then spills out and infects the world around you with goodness. Whether you’re an artist, or a scientist, or a chef, or a mother or a carpenter, or a bus driver, or a clerk, or a computer technician, or a nurse… Anything that you do from the depths of your Soul for yourself first and for others next is your path. It may function in the external world in different forms and descriptions, but if your Soul is expanding, you’re doing the right parts. We are all here to expand our Souls first and the world and human consciousness second.


       So, every failure, every time we f—k up, we just need to stop, take a breath, then embrace the moment, and ask for guidance from within as to what we learned in this attempt to succeed. Journal about it. Make a game out of it. And realize that in this failure you have learned a new lesson, and you are one step closer to succeeding. Now rejoice, because it’s the little successes that create the quantum leap successes.

              

Now, the idea of success becomes a personal journey,

and not a competition with anyone for anything.


        And, YES, this takes courage. But it’s the courage to find your own path, own your own journey, and embrace the challenges and rewards along the way. You’ll find the sensation of this kind of success in your heart and deep in your gut. Sink into those parts of you and allow, allow, allow the joy in – the compassion in – the love in – and the feeling of self-worth in. 


       You are indispensable!!!! 


The more you expand and allow your true Soul-self up to the front of your awareness, the stronger and healthier you become, and the world becomes. Without you and your gifts, it’s going to take longer to make the quantum leap into a loving caring peaceful world. 


       Thank you for being part of this community and for your magnificent indispensable part of our whole human family. And our Divine Mother Earth.


Blessings of light, love, and joy,










YOU ARE INDISPENSABLE - PART ONE

 

Today in my morning journaling I was contemplating community and how much we all desire it. To know that we are part of a family. That we're all in this together - together in the belly of this enormous shift in human consciousness. The end of duality. The coming together as ONE.


Really?! ONE!? I know, we look around, and everything seems more divided than ever. But in the deep center of the cyclone that is tearing everything apart, we are gestating peace and Oneness. We're each doing our part, bringing our own unique indispensable part of the peace and joy and understanding.


And we have a ways to go, of course. The end of duality means tearing us out of several thousand years of the false belief that we live in a finite world that doesn't have enough for all of us. And so we are constantly in competition to get our share, driven by the fear that we won't survive unless we work harder than..., be better than..., get more than...! We're constantly playing our parts in this desperate game. We get momentary pleasure when we have a win. Even when it's not our own win - when our sports team wins, or our favorite media star wins an Oscar or a Grammy. But the feeling doesn't last. It is unsustainable, because for all those who win there are all that lose.


This is up bigtime in the zeitgeist right now, being awards season and the approaching Super Bowl. And this made me think about an interview I heard with Matt Damon telling about getting his Oscar when he was 27.


He said that after the show he couldn't sleep, so as he sat up looking at the award, and he suddenly thought, "Thank god, I didn't f--- anybody to get this. And then this feeling rushed over me, and I thought, what if I'd chased this all my life and gotten it when I was an old man and realized, with all of life behind me, what an unbelievable waste of my life... this could never fill you up if that's a hole that you have, this will never fill it up."


And it made me think of The Unsinkable Soul documentary that I was blessed to be part of where we were all there together in creating that beautiful mosaic of cooperation and sharing about healing and caring evolving.


That feeling endures. No one was the best. There was our lovely host, but there were no keynote speakers, no headliners. We addressed questions that were on the minds of those who attended and who took up just as much space on the screen as the panelists. All of us creating a mosaic of Love. And we are all teachers and students, we just shift places in this process of expanding human consciousness.


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So, this morning in my journaling I was writing about competition and how awful it feels in the pit of my stomach, and deep in my heart and gut. So, I wrote Win and Lose and Winners and Losers over and over again. And I thought about coaches and teachers telling their students to write down your "wins" for today. And parents teaching their children to be winners. And all the kids who have felt like losers for their whole lives because of a Little League game or a soccer game or a spelling bee that they lost. And I thought "We have to stop winning." Because you cannot say the word Win without Lose being somewhere in your awareness. And that fear of losing, or not winning is poison in our body consciousness.


I recently posted a Meme on my Facebook page that said.


"I don't want to compete with you. I want us all to win."


And I got a lots of Likes. But still there is that word, Win. Still there is that lingering word Lose.


So, what came out of this exploration was, why not just stop using the word Win all together.


And change Winning to Succeeding


Try saying succeeding or succeed in place of winning or win and see if Lose is still lurking anywhere in your consciousness. It probably isn't.


What I thought of just now, what is linked with succeeding in my consciousness is the phrase,


"If at first you don't succeed, try and try again."


This sounds more like my Inner Voice, compassionately supporting me and my efforts to be all that I can be.


I'm changing the Meme to, "I don't want to compete with you, I want us all to succeed at whatever our own unique path is."


This is the way that we create the mosaic of the New Earth. With us all supporting the success of one another's paths - our unique gifts that we each are here to add to the evolution of human consciousness.


Try it for a few days. See what it feels like. Maybe journal about it. Use it as a Mantra. For instance "I desire to succeed."


Let me know what you discover.


Have a blessed week. Remember the mosaic cannot be created without you and your remarkable gifts.


You are Indispensable.


Have a blessed week. Enjoy yourself. Be gentle with yourself.


With so much love, light, and joy,



www.BarbaraWilder.com





READY SET RESET FOR 2024

 

On this New Year's Eve as we step over the threshold into 2024, it seems like this is really a time to do a major reset of my life. You may have a sense of this as well.


For me, it has been a feeling that there has to be a new way to do things, in my own life and also in the world. Do you know this feeling? It's like I’ve been doing my life and my work a certain way for soooo long, and it isn’t bad, but it isn’t good. Not that what I do isn’t good. It is. I, like you, do work that is helpful to others.


But I’m feeling now like it has to open up. To be bigger. Not bigger. That’s not the right word. I feel like my Higher Self is pushing on the back of my heart and very loudly whispering, “Open.” And then, what follows is a sensation with colors and videos of something wonderful. Dancing Lights, and groovy music. And it’s New. But I don’t quite get a real knowing of it in my brain…yet.


Oh, I get what it is! It is the voice of my Higher Self opening up a new channel of life. I didn’t know this until right now as I am writing this. It’s like streaming a brand-new frequency of life and light. It feels like a sensation of good news. A good news channel. 


I had a dream a couple of nights ago, and in it there was this very lovely woman, ageless, and dressed in a nineteenth century afternoon gown with a bustle. The dress was creamy white, and she was in her boudoir, and the sun was shining into the room from the window behind her. The air was a very light peachy color, and she was holding a fan that was also this pale peach color. And it was made of light. And as she fanned herself with it, golden sparkles of light flitted out into the air around her along with this peach light. And then, I woke up. And I felt a peaceful joy all through my being. 


I know this light, this peach light with gold sparkles. I know it as the Energy of Compassion. It is a light frequency that has been with me for many many years, but never in a dream, and never with this deep, sweet sensation. And tonight, as I write this, I know this is the new channel. And it’s not just for me. This is the new channel that we are being guided to stream in our lives now. And it comes in from the back of our hearts and pushes our true gifts out into ourselves and the world around us.  


It's like we are the content creators of this new channel. And the old content of the old channel is not relevant here. Only the new, that has been gestating in our hearts for perhaps years, is ready to be born. And it is not like anything before. It may have aspects of that which we’ve done before, but the foundation is NEW. The foundation is this Energy of Compassion. This Pale Peach Light with golden sparkles. 


         This is the only way I can share It with you. You may feel It or sense It differently. But It wants you to know It. To allow your Higher Self to push It out into your own heart and into the world. It may have a melody, or a sound of some kind, or a rippling feeling, or perhaps the sense of a sigh. 


         So, I invite you on this New Year’s Eve, as you get ready to reset your life in 2024, to take time for a brief meditation. And just imagine this Pale Peach Frequency of light with golden sparkles, and then imagine It as a small sun behind your heart - and then pulsing into your heart and out through your body. Perhaps flowing through your body in your blood stream. And after a little while let it expand through your whole body and then out into your energy field. And just sit with this for a little while. 


         As I write this, I am feeling it is like champagne. It is the champagne of the New Channel. The channel of Compassion.


Have a lovely lovely New Year. 

With so much love, light, and compassion,

Barbara 

Winter Solstice 2023 - THE COURAGE TO BE YOU

 

Each night starts earlier and earlier. We are moving, like we do every year, into the shortest day and the longest night of the year. Though our current culture doesn't pay much, if any, attention to the Winter Solstice on December 21, in the Northern Hemisphere, in ancient times this day/night was the most sacred.


As the day approached the people responded to going into the darkness in harmony with the rest of nature - the leaves falling, revealing stark bare branches, the grasses browning, the bears going off to sleep in their lairs, the lakes and steams freezing. And the Earth, the Great Mother, drawing all her children into the depths of the darkness where she embraced them all in Her dark blanket of rest and the promise of rejuvenation - New Light -

And, so honoring Her rich darkness they slowed down. They rested like the plants and the animals until just before the Solstice, when those who were called began gathering wood to build giant bonfires to celebrate the Light In the Darkness. - The promise of a new year coming. Not right away, days would still be short and nights long, but the cycle was now set in motion to return to longer days and finally the rebirth of Spring.


So, though, we in our crazy unhinged culture are rushing around buying gift, sitting in traffic jams, planning and giving parties, working long shifts, tearing our hair out with year end tax preparation, and business and corporate plans for the new year, deep in our DNA is the memory of the ancient appreciation of the darkness and the deepness within ourselves as part of the cycle of life and our Divine Mother Earth.


Thus, on this day before the Solstice, I invite you to slow down.

Take a break from the chaos, and allow yourself to snuggle down, maybe wrapped in a soft blanket, perhaps with incense burning, and breathe into your own dark coziness. And dream about a time when the night was the realm of the Mother and Her nurture. We were safe in the dark, because we knew She loved us, and took care of us. This is the darkness of the womb, and from Her womb we all were born.


Allow yourself to breathe into that ancient knowing that is held in your DNA. Allow the experience to infuse you from within. And continue to breathe. Breathe until breath is the only thing there is.


You may begin to get a feeling of emptiness. That may feel scary, but put your attention back on your breath and welcome in the nothingness. Remember you are in the womb of the Great Mother. And it is in this moment that all of your life's potential is.


And it is in the moment, in this nothingness that you may feel a wild new you pulsing gently through you. And it is NOW that you have the power to ride the monstrous wave of your own pure potential. To connect with your Courage to let go of all that has held you hostage in the past, and go for it.


Who knows what "it" is. You don't need to, this is not about some old goal or ego created idea of what you want to be or do, but it is the intense desire of your immortal spirit to express itself through the magnificent vessel that you are.


Be with this for as long as you can. Relax and allow whatever is happening within.


ALLOW ALLOW ALLOW ALLOW ALLOW

and Breathe

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As you find your way into the rest of your day, allow that feeling, that sensation of your own courageous Inner Being accompany you into tomorrow and the Solstice.


And then on the Solstice, Honor the Divine Mother, and gather your candles

and your crystals and you sacred objects, and your sacred beverage and your warm cozy blanket and speak with The Great Mother. Ask her what She wants for you in this next moment. Listen. Listen with your feeling self and your sensing/intuitive self. And Light your candles and drink your sacred wine or juice, and celebrate your courage to be YOU.


Have a blessed Solstice.


With so much light, and love, and joy,

Barbara

www.BarbaraWilder.com

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